I hate long introductions. Shall we just?…
I CUT DOWN ON COFFEE
December 2016, I was drinking coffee like water. I wouldn’t have declined an espresso at 10pm if I was working. I started getting heart palpitations and headaches; I knew it was time to start simmering down from 7 cups a day, all with a small helping of milk and sugar. For the majority of 2017 I stuck to 2 a day, switching from dairy to soya and eventually to almond (soya is not my friend, ’tis my frenemy) and cutting out sugar in my coffee completely. No shakes, no headaches and better sleep. If anything I love coffee more when I don’t drink it all the live long day.
I JOINED A GYM
Hasten to add, I no longer belong to said gym. I don’t like the gym. But for 2017, partially influenced by the idea that I needed to get super fit in order to fix my shit and get a man who wasn’t worth getting (I didn’t get him) I joined up and actually did get a little bit fitter. And I needed that to remind me that I enjoy fitness and that I can really get some o’that muscle where I want it.
BUT. I really hate the gym. This year I’m going to put the energy into early morning workouts at home, buying my own equipment and trying some new classes instead. But I very much appreciate the lessons gained from sticking to a gym routine for a year!
In my bible, that looks somewhat different to the average bible, because it looks like Christine Hassler’s 20 Something 20 Everything, there is a short chapter, highlighted in my copy to almost pure ugly pink-ness, called The Lure of Quick Fixes.
Is this Kate abut to get straight into the point of a blog rather than chit-chat shit for three paragraphs first?
Yes it is.
20 Something 20 Everything is my number one recommended book for clients; I featured it in my top books for women in their 20’s and I direct every woman who comes to me to it because I continue to think it’s the most brilliant book I’ve ever read. Today I wanted to talk specifically about the idea of these Quick Fixes, because as I was sitting in the dentist chair recently, having what I call my ‘fangs’ filed down to resemble normal incisors after it bothering me since I was a teen, I realised just how much sooner I could have fixed this problem, rather than relying on quick fixes to make me feel better…because they were a cheaper option.
Finally ticking off that silly goal to get my teeth fixed wasn’t my ‘quick fix’; it was my actual fix. (more…)
I’m a firm believer in goal setting; it’s the intention behind making something you want an actual ‘RIGHT I’M DOING THIS”, and breaking it down so that it’s achievable and measurable and those other words that makes a goal a ‘SMART’ goal (if I never see that acronym again I won’t be mad) that sets apart a dreamer from a go-and-getter.
I believe in having goals in every area of your life; a life based only around career goals makes me sad. You should want more for yourself in every area. It’s not just the achievement of set goals, but the process too. It’s realising you’re edging closer, it’s noticing your confidence blooming as you start improving. It’s the things that get you out of bed in the morning; it’s doing something every day that gives you satisfaction, that makes you feel the good kind of tired. It’s knowing that you’ve given the day your best.
Happy Monday! Today all I wanted to share was my reading list full of recommended reads that I ALWAYS pass onto clients. September seems to spring an era of change, and ooooobviously we’re all taking part in Self-Care September…obviously. So these books are combining the best of all worlds; care, change, productivity, the satisfaction of staying indoors now it’s getting chilly.
It took me SO long to narrow it down to 6, but if you’re going to read any books to get you through your 20’s, make them these!
Daily habits, of the positive variety it seems, take a lot more conscious effort than the ‘bad habits’, don’t they? I can quite easily find myself six coffees in with little recollection; I’m sure a smoker finds their own vice pretty effortless. But to floss my teeth or put my phone down an hour before bed takes a real vigorous attempt of me.
Experts say it takes 21 days to form a habit. (There’s a super piece on the Huffington Post on the science behind forming habits and it’s now assumed it’s actually about 66 days.) I don’t at all agree with 21 days; I’ve been trying to make a daily habit out of flossing for several years. I think it depends a great deal upon the habit; how time-consuming it is, how much physical effort it requires, how fun-sucking it is.
I also think that to unlearn a bad habit takes even longer, proven by the difficulty of giving up smoking or trying to stay off of social media for more than five minutes. (more…)